Labels Are Not For Humans

Several years ago, I met a beautiful soul who trusted me with her story... a story filled with heartache as she grappled with the labels the world tried so desperately to assign to her. She didn't fit the mold. She couldn't be defined by the labels of this world. She felt lost and alone. Eventually, she blossomed into herself as she learned labels are not for human use; finally believing she is more than any one thing people tried to describe her as.

Although our stories are very different, I understood her pain. My parents (who have worked through their shit and are beautiful people now) both battled addictions as I was growing up. When young children are around addicts, they learn how to adapt to any situation and take on the ability to code switch. This is a survival method and serves them well (for a moment). However, it also creates identity issues, when a child learns to code-switch in order to meet the needs of those around them they learn to ignore their true selves in order to present in a way that is acceptable to their peers and family losing themselves in the process.

In my twenties, I had an intense dream where I was standing in front of a large mirror, staring at myself. The mirror shattered, sending glass into the air. I tried to put the pieces back together quickly as I felt ashamed that it was broken. I knew this was a metaphor for my identity, how I viewed myself, and how I put too much emphasis on how people saw me. I knew I had to let the way I present myself to the world shatter so that I could find wholeness and just be the person standing in front of the mirror - unbothered by how the reflection was received. Seems easy, right?

I am a personality test nerd and love to learn about human behavior; measuring myself up to all the different descriptions and labels; I am an ENFP (sometimes INFP), High I and D in the DISC profile, & Ennegram 7w4, I am Taurus sun, Virgo moon, and Capricorn rising (if you know what any of this means you are probably an outlier too). Below will be a link to these tests if you are curious. Although I can recognize myself in these tests, they do not define me as a whole. I have searched my entire life for answers, not really understanding the question I was asking. I have studied world religions in depth. Searched for mentors. Searched for wisdom. Searched for l